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Unexpected Clarity

So, I’m working on a project behind the scenes and the writing I just did for it this morning offered me something I didn’t expect to get today.

We all know I get the vast majority of my clarity through writing and tarot. I use writing to clarify the tarot frequently. I’m never surprised when clarity comes through this way because I expect it. I’m just sometimes surprised by the content of that clarity. Today was one of those days.

I got on the subject of boundaries, which are just a bad excuse to make a choice to change or end a given relationship. More on that another time.

Where that ended up was in our perceptions of physical distance, separation, loyalty, the natural ebb and flow of a relationship, longevity of said relationships, love, and how all of that plays out and the choices it seemingly forces us to make.

Good relationships, true relationships, true love handles all of that without blinking. Any need we have to defend ourselves in some way from that is just the ego being needy and clingy.

I have a relationship in my life right now that’s playing in this exact space that I just saw in a whole new way. I unintentionally, inadvertently, unknowingly freed myself from something I didn’t fully recognize I was caught in. Wow! Just wow!

Ego need and ego self-defense are two of the things that make relationships far more complicated than they need to be. Sometimes, no matter how self-aware we become, we miss what the ego is doing in plain site, like I was doing until now.

What do we do when that happens?

Self-forgiveness. Get okay with being a human that has a clingy, needy, defensive ego. Accept the new awareness without defending the old way of being. Honor the clarity. How does that change how you show up in the world? How does that change your actions? How does that change your thinking about the situation?

To be able to accept new clarity you have to be able to not make up a story of how painful the old way was. The old way happened so you could learn the new way. Be grateful instead of wounded.

Clarity offers you a space to find gratitude. The only reason you get wounded is because you’re mad at the clarity for not showing up on time.

What’s true here?

You wanted the clarity a long time ago because it would have changed how you managed yourself. But it wasn’t there. You didn’t have it yet. So, now you’re mad at the Universe because you don’t feel supported. If you were fully supported that wouldn’t have happened.

Oh, how I do love human perception!! hahaha

The Universe did support you by showing you how painful the old way of being was so that you could be grateful for the new clarity. The pain did support you in seeing the truth. Without the pain, you wouldn’t have been able to accept the clarity you just got. You would have defended the pain.

What are you doing right now?

Defending the pain from a different angle.

I get a lot of clarity because I’m willing to accept what I get. Do I get off-track sometimes? Sure. Does my ego get in there for a while sometimes? Yes. Am I still human? Yes.

What does that mean?

My higher self gets grumpy (lol!) until I get with the program! This is something I say all the time – it’s not a question of whether or not I’ll get there. It’s only a matter of how long it takes me to do it.

Every single piece of clarity I’ve gotten over the past several years has fallen into that exact space. If I’m really honest with you, I do a much better job of taking on clarity when I’m writing it out than I do when it comes through my cards.

This is much easier for me to accept here than it would be for me to both interpret via my cards and also take on if I did manage to interpret it.

Writing is truly my super power. It offers me awareness and clarity that I can’t usually get in other ways.

Don’t get me wrong, I adore my cards! But this is pure gold!

I wanted to share this with you because it’s important to me. It’s important to me that you see what happens when my own clarity comes through. It’s important to me that you’re able to handle clarity when you get it for yourself. It’s important to me that you give yourself grace when it doesn’t come to you the way you think it should or at the time you think it should.

It’s all in perfect divine timing – even that clarity you decided came too late. You were meant to feel the pain as a means of gaining the clarity. We don’t like that because we’d rather skip the pain part. But that’s how it goes sometimes.

Be okay with it. It’s just part of the journey of being human.

I learned a long time ago, and this is true even when it takes me a hot minute to catch up to the clarity being offered to me, that there is great value in the reward of accepting the clarity. The knowledge of the value of the reward behind the clarity is what makes this process worthwhile.

If you got this far, thanks for hanging out. I’ll be sharing more about that project I talked about later on this year.

Love to all.



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