👋 Is there apart of your life you wish you could transition out of or into? Do you not see a clear path out? Is it difficult to see the forest amongst the trees?

Bridge Building 101

One way out of this stuckness feeling is by building a bridge. A bridge is essentially a transitionary period. It’s some length of time dedicated to getting to the other side. Whatever it is you’re going through, whatever it is you’d like to change — there is always a way out.

Feeling stuck is a very normal feeling. It is a feeling that is very common. Being unhappy in a current situation — whether financial, spiritual, career-wise, or a conflict between someone close to you — you are always free to go a separate route. Whatever needs to happen to get you un-stuck is all you really need to know and do. However elegant or painful that looks like, where you currently stand isn’t permanent. Life is constantly in flux and so are you. Unless of course, you choose to stand pat. There is nothing wrong with this either, as long as it’s what you want. If you’re having trouble knowing if it’s right for you — if you’re questioning it, it’s a no.

Building a bridge doesn’t have to be pretty. In fact, some bridges can be downright ugly. The point is to GTFO of whatever it is you’re dealing with at the moment ASAP and step into a new reality. Freeing up the energy by leaving the old behind will get your mind thinking in new ways where you have to think differently and adapt. This is an extremely intelligent way of living your life. Your bridge can be made of cardboard and duct tape. As long as it gets you from point A to point B then that’s all that matters.

Fast vs Slow Bridges

Some bridges need to be fast while others are better for more methodical transitions. As far as fast bridges go, it really is sometimes a better solution to just rip the band-aid off and figure it out from there. When making a change you don’t need to have everything figured out before you go through with it. By doing so, this will only stagnate your progression and you will remain stuck. By leaving the old, you are allowing for the new. This may not always be easy, and will often be downright difficult, but if it’s necessary and will make you feel better in the short term and long run then that’s all the really matters.

Some of your bridges will be long and slow. Some will require more brain power and grace. Just be careful to not confuse long transitions with not actually progressing. Basically, don’t kid yourself. Be honest with yourself. Perhaps there is an easier or shorter bridge you could take. But sometimes, you may have to fail repeatedly and learn from your mistakes over and over again until you finally reach an epiphany. This is when long and slow bridges pay off in the end.

Burning Bridges

It is best to not burn bridges in your moments of change. You don’t really want to create negative energy leaving something behind, especially involving other people. Even if your bridges are quick just to get the energy moving in a more positive direction, doesn’t mean you have to be a bad or evil person in the process. Although, sometimes this is just the nature of the beast. Feelings get hurt and things get ugly. This is just how life plays out sometimes. If burning a bridge is the only way you see fit, then make your peace with it. No sense in dwelling and delaying the inevitable.

Blueprints

Do you need to have a blueprint for building a bridge? While it is helpful to have some sort of idea in mind, it is not necessary. You certainly don’t need a masterplan. As stated earlier, this will only perpetuate the stuckness. If you’re currently unhappy in your situation then any direction other than the one you’re in is a win. The thing here is to focus on what would excite you. If you could snap your fingers and be in the new reality now, what would you want? What would light you up inside? Let that be your focus — not the fear, uncertainty, and doubt. Stay in the present moment as best as you possibly can.

Your Story Needs a Bridge

My favorite part in movies is when the character is going through that transitionary period. You can practically see their growth on screen. The score is playing some badass music and something epic is unfolding. What’s your bridge to a more interesting, courageous future? What epic song is playing? They say it’s not the destination, it’s the journey. I would agree. How is your story unfolding? How could you consciously play a part in that unfolding process? This is what life is all about. Do something bold, scary, and fun. What’s the memory you want to create here? Does your movie have people falling asleep or on the edge of their seats? You’ll look back and either smile, laugh, or cry at what you did. Make a masterpiece.