Potential reasons for divorce.

November 5, 2022

The same red flags that you ignore in the beginning will be the same reason the relationship ends.

Now, I like the idea of a lifelong marriage. Being with one person and deciding that I’ll make the best possible relationship I can with them.

However, relationships are like friendships, we only get one life, etc etc.

Or, we only get one life with this unique set of personality traits.

Red flags I ignored about my wife:

Trickle truthing about her past with sex work (including cheating on me in the first weeks of our relationship.)
The way she had a photo on her Instagram story archive, until I asked her a question about whether she’d been in quarantine the week before I met her, then removed it and denied it ever existed – or that she knew how to delete stories from her archive. Basically, she pretended to be dumber than she is.
That she almost reported me to the police during an argument for a made up crime.
That she told me I raped her during our first month of living together. Then later apologised saying “I didn’t mean it, I just wanted to hurt you”
Her vindictive/punishing attitude.
That she has a history with panic disorder and schizophrenia runs in her family.
That she couldn’t handle ayahuasca.
That she has previously had sex for money.
That she had a large amount of credit card debt when I met her; and that she would ignore the calls of the collectors.
That she plays TV to fall asleep.

Basically I could see myself divorcing her for sex work, for lying, for being prone to mental health issues (meanwhile, I’d like to have babies with a mentally healthy woman).