004 | no more goodness that costs me myself
i was on a coffee date with my wife and we talked about all kinds of things, and somehow, when she said “i'm trying to become a better person” i asked “why”,
“i think everyone should aim to be a better person,” she responded,
and oh, how i would have agreed with that not too long ago; however, today, before even thinking, i replied with a very firm “no.”
she was surprised, and so was i, but i added: “i think everyone should aim to live a happy life.”
and i felt that.
i felt that so deep in my heart.
because let's be honest -
'becoming a better person' can mean anything you assume others want; like, when people say it, they mean 'i want to become a person others find acceptable.'
but when you're trying to live a happy life,
ideally, that won't harm anyone else
and bring you joy;
and it will automatically make you a good person; a good person for yourself.