#10
So, one of those topics where I usually don’t see eye-to-eye with many people is this: keeping close connections with people who aren’t really serving your life purpose.
But when it comes to social/personal connections? A lot of them feel like they’re built around comfort. That’s it. No challenge, no growth, nothing really moving. And I’m not wired for that. I keep friends close for a reason: they’re either great conversationalists with fresh perspectives, or they have solid reasoning that can actually challenge the way I see things, let me emphasize that these people are extremely passionate and fun at the same time. That matters to me.
Yet if the connection is just about having fun, I don’t really see them as close friends. Honestly, I get tired of that kind of company pretty fast! usually after a day or two.
When it comes to personal stuff, I want people around me who can call me out, critique me honestly and with kindness, and not just nod along with a fake “You did great.” Like no, the truth usually lies somewhere in between, and I respect those who aren’t afraid to say it.
Something I’ve learned is that even when your heart’s not ready to let go of something or someone, your vision has to lead the way. That’s what leadership is. Think about it—if you’re leading a country, you don’t make decisions just based on feelings. You think about the big picture. What’s best for the whole, not just what feels nice in the moment.
So yeah, I don’t get it sometimes. Why keep people around if the connection isn’t productive, or inspiring, but merely comforting or numbing 🤷🏻♀️ unless you’re going with life’s flow and you’re directionless and that’s a form of living too. No shame in that.