#2
Cat Ladies Vs Patriarchy. P1
By now you probably came across a feminist video/reel and you saw a man commenting “you’ll die alone” or “no man wants you”… well, you’re already halfway there.
And other woman flooding childfree content with “we’re happy with our husbands and babies ” well a happy person doesn’t go around screaming that she is happy.
Being a “cat lady” isn’t about cats. It’s a threat.
It’s society’s way of saying:
“If you don’t center your life around a man or child, you are nothing.”
But what happens when the “nothing” is actually:
• Emotionally stable
• Financially independent
• Free to choose love, not beg for it
• Unbothered by dusty men on comment threads
…then the patriarchy panics.
Because when women stop defining themselves by being chosen, the system has no hold❗️
Back to Our Roots as Homo Sapiens
Once,thousands years ago, humans were just bipedal apes trying not to be eaten. For these apes, reproduction was not even a matter of moral debate but of survival. Like any other species you see now days in the jungle(humans are only animals that can have un reproductive sex) Women gave birth while men hunted and fought because it was all about keeping the population alive.
So, whenever someone says: “Oh, it's just biology,” no Kevin! it's actually nostalgia for the time when women died at childbirth and men were praised for not shedding tears!
Motherhood ≠ Achievement Badge
Let’s be clear. Giving birth is not easy at all. Matter of fact you should be truly selfless as a woman to do that. But in what world is it considered an achievement instead of a choice?
Theoretically, if a man builds a shed, he does not get a parade thrown for him. It is usually said, “Cool, hope you like woodworking.”
If a woman bears a child, the world shouts, “She is whole now, having completed her mission!”
...and then, just like that, forgets about the woman until the kid wins something. This sound familiar?
❇️ Declaration❇️
Before moving on to Part 2 and discussing why society resists out-of-the-box thinking, I want to make a clear declaration:
I am not against others having children. I am against having children unconsciously. out of emotional voids, societal pressure, codependency, or the need to fulfill outdated milestones.
That said, I fully support and respect the very few individuals and couples who choose to become parents consciously. From a place of self-awareness, emotional maturity, and psychological integration.