Ever seen someone going out of their way to kill people with kindness and then resents the whole world that people don't kill them back?
Now, if you really want to go down the dark road of telling one gender to go to therapy to fix their sadism. You need to tell the other to stop promoting masochism as well. Because sadism and masochism both need each other.
For I remember when Miss Vietnam said the most important trait in a woman was sacrifice and everyone (on TV) applauded, I wanted to throw the remote away. But that was early 2000. They rebrand it as empathy and kindness now.
Masochists need sadists. Otherwise they can't be a victim, and they have to be one. Like half of the time, they don't even need an actual sadist, a perceived one will do. See how projection and projective identification work.
You can't have a culture that both promotes masochism and blames sadists for enjoying the show.