I threw away the last bottle of Concerta but I still have ADHD. So unlike my other autistic friends, besides having social issues, I have also been an underachiever.
I do envy my friends with better academic achievements because I never followed through with mine. I also envy my other friends who didn't care for politics enough to have to deal with moral dilemmas in their jobs and sabotage themselves.
I also watched my dad go mute then quit a good paying job for a way worse one for no reason and baffled everyone around.
So maybe next time, use adjectives to describe people. If they threaten with violence, describe them as sadistic. If they are forceful with their opinions, describe them as controlling.
People can envy for various reasons. Those above are only 3. Some people who have critical parents can be envious as well. If you ask them, maybe they wouldn't mind telling you why. Pretty sure someone else already said, if you can't empathize with hate and envy, you can't empathize at all.
You making it about genders has much more to do with your own rationalization than their envy problem.