In psychoanalysis, there are paranoid-schizoid position and depressive position. So people who know that theory know that the depressive position is a mark of maturity.
In politics, you might find them saying things like “Both sides have grifters and exploiters”, or “The majority have similar views, just the loudest voices are extremists”.
But being a centrist is about as easy as being nice to a customer service people. And no, being nice to them is not enough to make you dating material despite what Reddit says.
But if you know what's the reasonable stand to take, how much of it is how you actually feel and how much of it is you trying to be mature? Many times, you are not actually in the depressive position, but you are in the defense against splitting. And defense against splitting does not mean depressive.
Even when they try to think nice for everyone, why is it wars in a foreign country are mass hysteria? But if your own country is involved, that's legitimate? Just because you don't think people are evil does not mean you are not splitting.
The thing is, you don't know everything. And the depressive position involves uncertainty and anxiety. Question is, is trying to understand it or trying to be a reasonable voice in public more important to you?