Personally I don't buy into cultural norms. But I don't mind other people doing it. Or having their lifestyles accidentally align with it. Like half of the people I hung out with or family members. What separates them from the annoying types is how consistent they are with it.
Like, if you think pressuring boys into having ambitions and careers gives them advantages and not damaging at all. Maybe the fact that they get angry because of someone with a bad thesis has more thing to do with those ambitions and life goals than anything else. Maybe their disproportionate anger does come from envy. But envy of what? Now you assign their problem purely comes from hatred for the other gender because it benefits you both times.
Be a victim half of the time only. Because all the time is not realistic.