The adaptation is how they think they are “the wife guy” or the “romantic” guy. All that effort seem to be love and devotion. Also why they brag about seeing people as stereotypes and it works. Also why they can ONLY be superficial.
For example, if I mention that I worked in game. They will say “I play games too”. If I mention that I studied literature, they will say “Here are my favorite fiction novels”. And those things all happen so you can’t say that they manipulate you with wrong information.
You listen to me long enough, you know that I don’t play game, and I only read non-fiction. I worked in game because I like visual storytelling. And I like writing and reading, but only in essays. But I don’t often disclose that information to someone I just meet. Meanwhile, borderline guys might think I’m their destiny for the attunement based on their assumption. Because they don’t have preferences of their own, so they don’t understand the depth of others’.