Today I heard Matt Walsh called some people ungrateful brats because they didn't say thank-you. So that was funny.
I know it doesn't make sense logically for any healthy person. But yes, they hate you more when you help them. Freudianly, there are very few adaptive defense mechanism. So-called “rationalists” don’t even know that their defense – rationalization – is actually an immature one.
Adaptive:
Humor – which many comedians use.
Sublimation – we did more homework.
That’s it.
Some people say altruism. But altruism is not a defense. If it’s to improve the situation, it could be sublimation. If it's to be on the right side, it could be splitting. If it is to be righteous, it could be narcissism.
So the common logic is, if you had a hard time with integration or if you was bullied and understand hardship, wouldn't you be more positive when you finally receive help?
If you chose narcissism in adolescent years, it’s not just “I’m better than my bully”. But also, “I will never be desperate for love”, “Dependent on others is weak”, ... Not because you are completely independent in reality. But that means you can’t admit when you are not. So you hate people who remind you of your dependency.
When you thank a stranger for helping you cross the street, it is to be polite. When you thank the open source community, it is to belong. But when you thank a family member or a friend, it is dependency.
Statistically, you have way way more chance of the underdogs being the bad guys than otherwise.