Vidak's Romantic Advice
Date: 2021-02-09
I have had many romantic relationships, both long and short term, and this is what I have learned:
- people can frequently be fickle, selfish, and inconsiderate
- loneliness is often not solved by romance, and, can actually make it worse
- I think the biggest things that cause individual sadness and angst
in relationships is a fear of failure, rejection, lack of communication, and, at least in my case, pushing yourself to ‘make it work’ when really it needs to end. - don’t concern yourself with how others see your relationship, make
sure you are true to yourself - like every deep human relationship, trust and love is earned. empty promises and eloquent excuses mean nothing. you are 100% the sum of the history of your actions, not your words
- make sure you are having your needs met, a relationship that is one way, as brutal as this sounds, is not a relationship
- sex is nice, but is ultimately not fundamental, or the bedrock/basis of/for a good romance in any way shape or form
Finally, if someone is not there for you at your worst, they don’t deserve you at your best. I know this is often repeated but it is not a cliché.