sinner saint
“ Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future.”
Oscar Wilde
We talk about love. We cry and moan for love. We write sonnets and paint great works because of love.
But when we realize things have gone south or we’re at a place where we shouldn’t be or don’t need to be or somehow we need to extract ourselves from a relationship, we ask ourselves, ‘how do I fall out of love?’ ‘When will I fall out of love?’
The act of falling into love is something that we don’t expect. We stumble into it when we don’t intend to. As if to say. ‘I’m going to fall in love with this person.’ That’s why we call it falling. Like tripping into a hole, a well, a puddle or stumbling into a place… a glen or a copse of trees. It is usually very wonderful. This feels very good.
But extracting ourselves from that same place is not the same. We are not going to fall out of love. One does not fall out of a hole or stumble out of a valley. You have to climb. Make a way out. Extraction takes effort. Falling does not.
This tumble might be days, weeks, months or years but, god, does it feel glorious. We are glad to do it. For sure, the longer the fall, the harder the climb.
So you find yourself in love with someone that you’re not supposed to be. Or it’s not healthy for one or both and you need to extract yourself. Realize that you have to have work to do. You have to put effort to climb and figure your way out.
Even after making that journey, realize you’re never going to be completely free of it. There will always be a part of you still in that place.
So if you fall in love, stay there and be happy and enjoy it. If you can’t, the sooner you start the climb out the better, the less energy and effort it will take to fully extract yourself from the relationship.
Accept that the two of you may move on with your lives, but you will always be connected somewhere down that well of wonder.
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